Pam’s had cold for almost 2 weeks and is having some trouble bouncing back. She ended up on antibiotics. She used our tomatoes and peppers from the garden to make hot sauce as well as freezer jam. From all the standing, it kicked up all of her chronic back pain. So she’s been on the couch for awhile and very slowly coming back. I had the cold first and no doubt gave it to her. Now that I think about it, mine lasted for almost 2 weeks too. It’s amazing how colds can make people feel so miserable but yet they are expected to work and function daily as though nothing is wrong.
COMMENT from Elderly lady in training on the “I’m forgetting to eat” post.
Submitted on 2009/10/01 at 5:59pm
Thank you. For me that is one of your best posts. So eloquent, so eye-opening.
If you feel able I would be really interested to know how you’d like other people to behave towards you when you feel like that. Do you want people to talk to you? Would you like them to take you for a walk, or to try and bring you out of the fog? Or would you prefer to be left alone? Or do you want people to just be around, but not saying anything?
What you describe reminds me of people I’ve met, and I’m never sure how best to relate to them. Of course everyone is different, but I think understanding your views would be helpful.
This an awesome question. Actually, it has never crossed my mind. I feel a bit clearer today so I can think this one through a bit. I think that I prefer people around me but not feeling as though they have to speak and interact with me. It’s a pressure I don’t want to put upon them. If people try to talk to me, then it gets very frustrating because things don’t always make sense or I feel I have to respond at a time that I’m not clearheaded or that I can find the right words. Definitely not try to make me walk or do something at that moment. Being left alone is OK most of the time. Sometimes I feel frightened for no reason and go shut and lock the doors and close the blinds. Not often, significant when I do. Overall, I think having people around but not necessarily interacting works the best for me. Following my lead would be the clue. If I wanted/tried to interact, then follow along. Otherwise, just be in the moment with me. I would imagine that this answer would vary from person to person with dementia based upon their personality, etc. Definitely don’t try to snap me out of it. If I could snap out of it, I would do it and then there wouldn’t be a problem. Kind of like trying to get someone to stop crying whenever a close loved one dies. Trying to get them to snap out of it and to begin laughing joyously is not very kind in my thinking. We all have to go through various emotions and states naturally. I’m not sure if any of this makes any sense. If it doesn’t, let me know and I try to explain it differently.
Here are some pics of our cannas. The orange one has bloomed even further but can’t get a pic since its been raining daily.
Only in America …..do banks leave both doors open and then chain the pens to the counters.